Since we were all kids we may have been taught that failing was bad. Failing a spelling test? Boy, are you going to be in trouble. Flunking your driver’s exam? Loser! But what if we all looked at failing in a different way.
No doubt you remember your failures, right? We all do. That time you didn’t catch the ball. The other time you came in last place. Failures are hard to shake. So instead of being haunted by them, why not learn from them? After all, you never forgot what it felt like when you failed miserably asking that person for a date. Right? (We can’t forget it either!)
Let’s just take a moment and look at what failures do. They teach. They remind. They cause us to reflect; think about what we could have done differently. And, just looking at it that way — failures just might be the best things that ever happened to us.
“I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate” – George Burns
If you always succeeded, success would have no meaning. It would be the norm. If you got FIRST PLACE every day of your life, you’d be bored. And what’s more, everyone would be in first place so first place become null and void.
Looking at failures as learning opportunities isn’t just a ‘feel good, new age’ way of looking at things. Doesn’t it make sense? Part of the process of failing is spending some time wallowing in it. And believe it or not, this is the most important part. Take it in — take it ALL in. How you feel, look, what you think during and after you’ve failed at something. But more importantly, remember it. Never forget it. Memorise it.
“I’ve come to believe that all my past failures and frustrations were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy” – Tony Robbins
Then, when you’re ready — and there’s no specific timeline here; one day, two days? — pick yourself up. Brush it off. You’re not the only one this has happened to and perhaps, it may happen again. You will fail a test again. You will be the last person picked for the team yet again. And that’s OK. Because then you’ll know what it’s like to be picked first, when that happens — and it will happen.
Everyday, take a moment to reflect on what things the universe was kind enough to teach you today. What have you learned from your failures? From getting in trouble at school to getting ‘a talking to’ from your boss, own it and learn from it. Now it’s up to you if it happens again. Next time will you know better, or are you going to do it again — which means that you aren’t ready to have that learning yet so it will happen again and again until YOU figure it out.
It’s your choice. So, we wish you at least one failure today, that you won’t make tomorrow.
“ For every failure, there is an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a road block, take a detour.” – Mary Kay Ash
FOUNDER AND COMMUNICATION EXPERT
As Founder of Career Change Happens and Find Your Calling, Maria has had years of experience in the world of Cognitive Behavioural Conditioning, and personal and professional development. Her intense passion for supporting others in making their dreams a reality has helped thousands of people clarify and move into positive futures.